Today, I’m going to talk about anger. How to
deal with the problem of anger. Before I say that anger is a problem, I want you
to know that not all anger is a problem. Why did God give us the capacity to be
angry? It is fuel so that we can change a situation. I’ll give you an example. Many,
many years ago, I was single, and I was a missionary, and I was serving God. But
every now and then, I would meet a fellow missionary who’s married, who’s got kids,
and they are so poor. And they have no money. And they have no money to put food
on the table. They have no money to send their kids to school. And it just pained
me. And I was angry. I was saying, “God, is this the way you take care of your
servant?” And then I was thinking, “Okay, I’m going to get married soon. And I’m going to
have kids. And I’m going to experience this.” You know.
I said, “No!” And so in my anger, I said, I studied. I invested in trying to find out
the answers. I finally did! I found out how to how to become an entrepreneur. I
found out that money is not bad per se, and learned how to invest, etc. And
then I turned around and I started teaching good people learn all of this.
And so, I put up the TrulyRich Clu. So there. It was born out of frustration and
anger for the situation that I saw. So this is one example. But, yes. Anger can be
a problem. And it could be a problem in two levels. The first is what I call
short-term anger. Like, temper. Like, it triggers… something triggers and you blow
your top. And when that is a problem I’ll recommend two things. Number one is,
you’ve got to know your triggers. You’ve got to know that you want to avoid the
triggers. And if, and if, you know – okay, the trigger is here, the trigger is here – to
actually change state right away. Like, like do something. Like, sing. Like, take a
walk, you know. Or, you know, change scene. You know, do something so that you
know that the trigger is there. You know. That it’s… You’re going to blow your top
pretty soon. But here’s the second level of
of anger being a problem — long-term anger. I was talking to a wife whose husband
had an affair. And so she was having such a difficult time, you know, because of the
resentment. And and it was very fresh. And she discovered it, you know, a
few months ago. And it’s there. And her heart is so heavy.
And so I told her four things, and the four things I want to share with you
right now. I told her, number one: be patient with yourself. You don’t, you
don’t forgive, like, you know, like, today. No. This is a journey.
Forgiveness is a journey. Number two… I told her that, even if you cannot forgive –
because she told me, “I can’t forgive him. I can’t forget.” That’s fine. That’s fine. But
this is what you do. You go to God and you say this prayer, “Lord, help me to
forgive.” Just saying that prayer starts the ball rolling. God will take it from there. And let you move on in this journey
of healing. “Lord, help me to forgive.” That’s enough.
Here’s number three – and I want to share this to you. This is very important.
Forgiveness and trust are two different things. You know, the husband cannot say “I
thought you forgave me already. Why don’t you still trust me?” No. Those are two
things. You can actually arrive at a point where you can, by the grace of God,
forgive your husband. But to actually trust him is something that he needs to
earn and is another process. And so, and so the husband needs to be patient.
That he’s able to regain the trust of the wife. And which brings me to
number four. And I told this to the wife – that what you focus on, grows. So if you
keep on focusing on his sin in the past, and how he had an affair, and how he
committed adultery – you will never move on. You have to stop focusing on that, and
start focusing on what’s he doing now, or how is he trying to be a better husband.
Look at that. Focus on that. And thank God every time you see it, you know.
Catch him doing good and then that will change the whole attitude, your whole
disposition. There is some, there is a fifth thing that I told her. And it’s
part of the gospel we’re going to talk about today. Hi! My name is Bo Sanchez and
welcome to Fulltank, your place of inspiration. I pray that you will be so
blessed as we share the gospel for the day. It’s Matthew 6:7 Jesus
teaches the “Our Father”, the prayer. And then, you know this, that in that in
middle of that “Our Father”, 2nd half, it says – Forgive us our sins as we
forgive those who sins against us. And I told her, “The only way that you
will end up forgiving your husband is to understand that God has forgiven you.” That if you understand that God had mercy on you, so also will you be able to
give mercy to others. Can we pray? In the Name of the Father, and of the Son, and of
the Holy Spirit. Jesus, thank You so much for forgiving us. And we receive that
mercy. And we’re passing it on. And help us to forgive. Walk with us in this
journey of forgiving others. Thank You so much for Your love and Your mercy. We
love You, Jesus. I love you, Jesus. Amen and amen.
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