How to Deal with Anger (Just Do This)

So, what is the best way to deal with emotions? Should you repress or express them? Actually, neither. Repression is bad, but expression is even
worse. You will never fully get rid of negative emotions
just by expressing them. If you keep doing it, it will become a habit,
and anytime something happens that triggers your emotion, you will just unconsciously
react. You will remain a slave to your emotions. You will get swept away by them, and you will
feel guilty afterwards. Not to mention the other person who you may
hurt, and possibly destroy the relationship. Maybe you manage to repress the emotional
energy for a while because you are not allowed to express anger towards your boss. But then you will be angry with those who
are weaker than you, for example, your wife. Now the energy has moved towards your wife,
but she also cannot keep it inside her. She finds someone weaker than her and gives
the anger to the children. You have become unburdened, she has become
unburdened, but at a very high price. Energy cannot be easily suppressed, but when
you express it, it spreads like a virus. Anger creates a chain reaction, and magically
it always travels in a circle. Ultimately, you will get this anger back in
one form or another, because you always receive what you give. You probably also received it from somebody
else, because you also give what you receive. Sometimes however you choose to repress the
emotion totally for one reason or another. But as you already know, energy cannot be
destroyed, so it starts working inside you. Instead of going out, it is now going in. Anger spreads like a virus the same way as
before, but now in your body. Suppressed anger is the main emotional cause
of cancer, and one of the most important unknown negative side-effects of civilized behavior. Repressing anger means that you keep this
poison close to your being instead of throwing it out of your system. Instead of being angry temporarily, you become
angry permanently. Anger is now part of your being, your personality,
and your everyday life. When you are speaking, when you are eating,
even when you are making love, this anger will be there. Society is teaching you to control anger because
letting it out is dangerous to others. However, keeping it in is even more dangerous
to you. Stuck emotion is like a deep wound unhealed
but covered. First, it was just a scar, you could have
healed it easily when it happened. But instead of dealing with it at its time,
you pushed it deep into your subconscious, and it caused an inflammation. Now it affects your whole system, and the
more time it spends there, the more damage it will cause. It is time to uncover your wounds even if
they hurt, and heal them in the light of your consciousness. Anger in expression is aggression against
others. Anger in repression is aggression against
yourself. The third way is understanding and thus transforming
anger. Awareness transforms aggression to compassion
towards yourself and others. From now on, you won’t have to choose between
expression and repression. Through understanding, awareness, and consciousness,
negative emotions won’t even appear in the first place. From which feeling does anger arise from? Frustration. Whenever you feel angry, you are also frustrated
with the situation or with the behavior of somebody. You hope that by expressing anger, you will
somehow change the circumstances to your advantage. You hope that the other person will change
his behavior because he will feel threatened by you. Fighting frustration creates anger. But what creates frustration in the first
place? Expectations. Whenever you are frustrated, you always have
expectations towards a situation or a person. Most often than not, these expectations are
way too extreme, rigid, absolutist, illogical, fictional and dysfunctional. These irrational beliefs, the musts and the
shoulds, were conditioned into your thinking pattern when you were a child. You need to go back to these core beliefs
and question them. For example, you may be angry at yourself,
because you finished only second at a competition. You are frustrated, because you believe you
must, under every circumstance, and in any case, always finish first. If not, you are not a valuable person, and
others won’t love you. When defining the first expectation clearly,
it can be immediately seen to be unrealistic and extreme. The second statement, which attaches your
self-worth to being a winner, also looks irrational at first glimpse. In spite of this, your mind is full of these
stupid statements that you don’t even know about. Instead of taking them as facts, start to
uncover each of them. These kinds of core unconscious beliefs are
the keys to creating a healthy emotional life. Going back to the previous example, whenever
you feel angry, ask yourself why? Why am I frustrated, what are my expectations? Define them clearly, say them out loud, you
can even write them down. Afterwards, ask yourself: Is this true? Does this sound logical? How can I know that it is true? Can I actually know this is true? Is there any evidence? Does this statement help me? Is this really true? More often than not, you will find that the
underlying statement is false, and your expectation is wrong. After you gained insight into your irrational
and dysfunctional belief, you can change it to a better one. One that truly helps you and makes you feel
good. By letting go of your expectations, frustration
and anger will dissolve on their own. In this free report, I’ll reveal my number
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