How to Help Your Child Deal with Anger and Frustration: Calm During a Meltdown


We’re talking about how to help calm your
child during a meltdown. And I just want to pre-frame with you that
we’re going to be giving you one statement at the end of the webinar, that’s going to
change your life. But before we can even give you that statement,
we want to help you build a solid foundation for your role as a parent because without
a solid foundation, we can build the most beautiful, biggest house in the world but
what’s going to happen to you if we don’t have a solid foundation? I will strongly suggest a pad of paper and
a pen because you’re going to miss some information if you don’t have one. All right. So I wanted to take just a minute and introduce
ourselves. But back in 2011, I had been involved with
personal development for 18 years, I had been leading teams in the business world, coaching,
speaking and traveling around for over a decade when I met Thomas and I have as a dream inside
my spirit since the age of 22 and I’ll be 47 this year, so kind of age myself there. But since the age of 22, when I read a book
called Think and Grow Rich and I knew at that time that everything my mom had kind of told
me about myself wasn’t really true, and I thought to myself, if there was ever a way
like I need to find a way to help every child in the world know their greatness before the
age of 12 because if I had no known mine, I probably would have finished high school
and I probably wouldn’t have had a baby at 16 and ran away from home and all these things
that we have to worry about as parents well, I did it. I did it to my parents. And then when I found out at 22 that we could
create that we can learn things that we can develop new skill that champions aren’t born,
but they are created. I knew at that time that the world needed
to know but I didn’t know how and so 18 years later, I met Thomas on a cruise ship in the
Bahamas and my kids like I mentioned at the very, very beginning, we’re all being diagnosed
behavior disorders, ODD, ADHD, anxiety and depression. And man, I did everything in my power to help
those kids. I’ve been reading parenting books for my oldest
son is now 21. So I guess almost 22 years ago, I started
reading them when I was pregnant, I wanted to be the best that I could be for my kids. I wanted to give them a great life. I wanted them to know how special they were
and how amazing I thought they were. And I just basically wanted to give them a
life that I never had. And so I worked really hard in business to
make a lot of money in order to do that and not going to share every detail because we
don’t have time for it tonight. But it did get to the point where my 13 year
old son was like Mom, stop trying to buy our love. And I’m just going to pause there for a second
because that was like somebody had taken a dagger and stuck it through my heart, right? It was like, Oh my gosh, I work so hard to
give you such a great life. And this is this is the same side. Getting a paper and pen. Awesome. Hi, Brittany. Welcome. Hi, Megan. Welcome. All right. So somehow, 18 years after I declared even
to my dad, that I was going to find this way to help kids. 18 years later, I end up on a cruise ship
in the Bahamas, and I meet Thomas Liotta. And all I knew at that time was that he had
a radio show. And I was in personal development. So I thought, yay, I’m going to be famous
on his radio show why we became friends and after talking with him on Skype few times
and over the telephone, and I realized that he’s a coach. He’s a trainer. He’s a teacher. He’s really, really smart and I’d like to
have him help me in personal development. So I flew him to Canada and that’s where I
got to see him with my kids. So Thomas, just before I let him tell you
what he saw in my home when he first came, I had no idea he knew anything about kids
but I was to find out later that in 1994, the same year that I read, Think and Grow
Rich. In 1994, he made a decision that his martial
arts training, his childhood what he saw coaching Little League Baseball’s was always very negative. And so type Yes, if you agree with this. Do you say no to your kids, like just habitually,
without even thinking about it more often than you say, Yes? So no, don’t do that, that’s wrong. You’re in a timeout, that’s bad. We don’t bang glass on the glass table. So if you’re with me on this type, yes. I already warned at the beginning, some of
you might. Yes. Okay. I have engagement. Whoo. All right. So I just thought that I was the greatest
that Tom’s in my house. And oh, yeah. You’re going to tell your own story. Right. Okay. So when he made that decision, he end up getting
his black belt in Taekwondo and opening up a martial arts school which became a all day
summer camp after school program licenses, the nonprofit so it was the only place that
underprivileged children could go, or children that were being kicked out of traditional
daycare because their behavior was off the mark got sent to his school. And for 15 years, he operated in one way,
the opposite of anything negative. So everybody typed yes, yes. Yes. So the opposite. So we never use the word, no, never said don’t,
stop, can, never use any type of punishment. He literally developed strategies and exact
words and phrases that really work to empower children to be authentically motivated to
work with you like this. How excited would you be if your children
worked with you like this like a team? You ask them to do something and they said,
yes, ma’am. I’ll get right on it. Or you wake up in the morning. And like one of our clients shared on our
page the other day, your kids have cleaned up the entire house for you and are preparing
special treat,how excited would you be if you could learn to set that environment up
in your home? So Tom, what did you see my house when you
first came, and I had no idea that you knew anything about kids and I thought I was the
best mom in the world? The first thing that I saw was a mom who was
literally at wit end and being stressed out, if you can visualize your engine in your car,
how it kind of revs up and it gets really right to the red line. You could see that she was doing everything
she could, and literally running around like watching the dog chases tail. There was a three storey house, seven bedrooms,
you would hear four kids, there were three different levels. Mom, there would go mom right at the upstairs. Mom, down to the middle mom down to the basement
mom all the way back up to the top. Yeah, back. I mean, run ragged. This is like, Wow, what a great fitness program
working has Stairmaster staying in shape. But what I saw was that she was doing absolutely
everything, thinking that I am the most perfect parent for my kids. That’s what I started to see. But what I knew from the research and the
work before, there was kind of exclusive from her is she didn’t know is that she was heading
in the wrong direction. It was just a matter of time before she sank
just like the Titanic. It was just a matter of time. But Tom was in Canada, probably about four
different times before I ever knew he knew anything about kids. And there was this one night in particular. And I want to tell you about Zachary, he was
my youngest. He was six and a half years old. He had already been kicked out of three classes
and two schools and had just been moved into a class of I think five or six other kids
behavior issue kids. And they had the timeout room in the back. So it has like this big glass shut off room. So when he scream, they could just put him
in there and it wouldn’t disrupt the class that’s where we were at with Zach the psychologist
told me he was the worst case of Oppositional Defiant Disorder that she had ever seen and
this was after he stood up in I think it was then grade one, maybe the beginning of grade
two. But the substitute teacher will sharpen his
pencil. And so he stood up and he threw his desk across
the whole classroom, wiped out a bunch of desks and chairs and then when the teacher
went to go, you know, grab his arm, he jumped off on the desk and went from desk, the desk
to desk, the desk and out the door, locked himself in the bathroom. That was my youngest son. right around the time that I met Tom and I
was a business coach, I was a I was a leader. I was training people how to create success
in their life. And I was going home and my kids were not
personally developed in any form or fashion they were they were really headed down a dark
path. So this one night in particular, I will Tom
was there. So I had my best mom behavior on and trying
to just show off and walking a little bit on eggshells because I was scared of the temper
tantrum that was about to come. And I said as nicely as possible. I’m like, Zach, it is bet time, it is time
for bed. And then Tom came around the corner right
when Zach started whining Tom comes around the corner and says you might want to write
this down because that you might not think we’re sharing anything in this moment but
there’s a lot being shared here and this story could change your life forever as it did mine. So what did you say is that Tom? Well, first and foremost, I asked him a question,
to engage him to think and I asked, hey, Zach, would you like to go to bed now with a story
or in 10 minutes from now without a story? So that goes, huh? And I’m thinking being the greatest mom on
the planet. Like I read my kids a story every night as
part of their bedtime routine, right? I got four. So I want to stay right on track. It took about probably an hour an hour and
a half my time every night to take them in and read them stories. And so that goes, hmm, 10 minutes from now
without a story. And then Tom goes well, do you know what that
looks like on the clock? And Zach said no. And then Tom took them over the clock. He showed him exactly what 10 minutes looks
like and said, hey, you are in charge of your bedtime. And I’m thinking oh yeah, he just pulled one
over on you buddy. Like this is going to be this the hour right? And anyway, 10 minutes later, Zachary come
running up the stairs and a big smile on his face. He gave us both a hug I love you went to bed
and never saw him again until morning. And that was like the first check mark on
it creating champions for life experience. Where’d you learn that? Okay. And then there’s just so many more, and we
don’t have a lot of time. But can you share? Tom, like the purpose behind giving Zachary
that choice? At that time? Like what did it do? I mean, Thomas is literally work with thousands
of kids through his after school program, he’s been able to take up 200 of these children
at a time out on field trips. Obviously, you have a couple of volunteers,
but not that many with phenomenal results just using strategies like this. So what was going through your mind when you
ask them the question? What’s is really is based on is a lifetime
worth of research and development, right? And the research is showing that when you’re
being told what to do is a dictation is Time for bed. It’s a dictation. But when you get somebody to start to think
and this is almost as Bonnie would like testifies that this might have been the first time that
Zach got a chance to think because he went, huh. And then he got to pick one. And then he got to show him how to do it,
how an adult would do it. And he went through the process and when he
did, it was all whose idea? And if you start to register, it was his idea
and boy did he was just coming in and of course mom was thinking now he’s ready to snow me
on this one. Yeah, he’s the new guy. And lo and behold, she started to go, what
just happened there. So it was beginning to get him to actually
activate thinking as part of a like a decision making training. So he could actually find a way to make it
work, there was on his terms, because the research shows that when you have an adult
brain in a kid’s brain, they see the world literally 100% different from each other and
that’s what’s key. We’re going to get into that a little bit
more in the next 30 minutes, we’re going to cover these four points. And we’re going to finish this with one statement
and we’re going to dive deep into this one statement so that you and your child can get
on the same page and you can help them calm down during meltdown. All right. So we’re going to show you how to put an end
to our struggles and arguments. Number two, we’re going to show you how you
can help your child step into their greatness as a comment in this group. It’s like hanging out with Jekyll and Hyde. And we do we have both positive and negative
in us we have both victim and Victor in us. So we’re going to show you how to help your
child step into their Victor self, their champion self. We’re going to talk about working with your
kids as a team because when you can go from being an opponent to a teammate, there’s going
to be a lot less opposition, a lot less resistance. Remember, you’ve always heard it takes two
to tangle, right? It takes two to argue it takes two to have
Oppositional Defiant Disorder, how much does that make sense, if it makes sense? Give me a like or a heart or say it makes
sense that would be good. All right, we’re going to talk about taking
the stress and anxiety out of your parenting role. Because there’s nothing worse than walking
around on eggshells, you know, you got to go to the grocery store, and you’re terrified
that your child’s gonna have this massive temper tantrum. So you’re always anxious and stressed out
and then it affects your mental health and sexual relationship that affects your whole
entire life. So what we’re talking about here tonight,
is the difference between life and death grow or die positive or negative same thing. Number one, putting an end to arguments. Now the belief that we have in society as
a whole is that kids will test our boundaries. How often have you heard that kids will test
our boundaries? My son likes to argue just because he likes
to argue, right? We just kind of have this belief. And Tom alluded to it a few minutes ago. He says we have a parent brain and adult brain
and we have a child brain, right? And they cannot possibly see the world exactly
the same. So I want to share this image with you. I’m going to get Tom to talk for a couple
minutes. But can you imagine handing out a lighter
to every single four or five year old and then trying to teach every parent in the world
how to put out fires? Like, would it make sense to do that? Like oh, play with fire? We’re just going to put out fires to put out
fire, react, react, react, putting out all these fires all day long, right? Or would it make sense to teach parents around
the world how to prevent the fire. So what it makes sense to teach us how to
put out fires or how to produce vent the fire. And this is where I’m looking for a little
bit of interaction, prevent the fire. Thank you, Megan, so much for answering, prevention
prevent makes sense. We’re all on the same page, it would make
sense to prevent. So when an argument happens Thomas like, the
child might say, I want to cook unit five minutes before dinner or I want to watch TV
with the parent has like asked them to clean their room or do their homework or something
like that, and they haven’t done it. So what is going on? When the argument starts happening? What’s going on for the child? Yeah, what’s happening for the child, remember,
this is a kid’s brain, this is the way they’re seeing it, they won’t see it the same way
as you. So what’s happening with the child is they
have a want need or desire, they have a goal, they have something that is important to them,
and they’re going for it. They have no rhyme or reason how it works. What they need to do correctly as the adult
brain is seeing. They don’t have that life experience. But they’re just going for it. They’re just doing something. And all of a sudden, here comes somebody that
just likes to read off their lollipop or rains under parade, and tells them even if it’s
the Sweetest of voices, or if it’s going to be something that would say there as far as
being safety. Is there telling them no, don’t. And you can’t. It’s like they’re actually asking for help. In this really unique way. That’s not the way that it sounds right to
you. But they’re really asking for help. Show me and we’re telling them No, don’t can’t
won’t. And just at that particular moment, how would
you feel if you were to be in the child’s shoes? Whether it be that positive or would it be
negative? Oh, that’s a good question. All right. So you want you buy a $500 item, a Facebook
ad or something like that, and it doesn’t show up, and you dial the one 800 number that
they talk about. And you’re like, look at you know, I ordered
this and set $500 on it. I’d like to have it delivered and that’s and
the customer service agent says no, we don’t do that. Does that make you feel really good? Do you feel really empowered? Do you know what to do to get your problem
solved? So how does that make you feel? If you’re the customer service person, okay
you feel you feel negative? Can I get like a second? Can somebody like second that motion? Frustrated? Yes, negative, frustrated? Ok. So the child says, Mom, I want a cookie. Nope, he feels ignored. Exactly. So Mom, I want a cookie. And we go and this is smart. Because you’re the parent. I mean, we can’t just be giving our kids cookies
because they asked for cookies five minutes before dinner. So I get that. All right. But there is a way to do it. That is disempowering, that causes opposition. And there’s a way to do it. That’s very empowering, that causes to teamwork. Now that we’re putting it in this sense, you
go to the customer service, and even if the customer service person on the phone can’t
help you in this moment, but if the customer service person would say, Oh, thank you so
much for calling. I would love to help you fix that problem. Let me take your name and number and I’ll
get back to you. So they share with you like a little game
said, rather than know, I can’t help you. I don’t know what to do. And then they hang up on you. You second minute. Thank you, Brittany. All right. So that’s a gold nugget. Everybody, this is going to put an end to
like say I would say 85 to 90% of the power struggles. Now I just want to mention that you’re seeing
creating champions for life through like a little keyhole Those old school keyholes Those old school keys,, your how they have
like the door, then there’s a little keyhole with what you’re doing right now is there’s
no way that we can share all of this in an hour with you. And we don’t have 10 hours. Well, nobody, nobody has 10 hours to just
sit here, right and go through this. So this is a little gold nugget. But there’s a lot more of where this came
from. So the statement is, I would love for you
to have a cookie. What do we need to do before we have a cookie,
eat dinner? Or I would love for you to have a cookie. As soon as dinner is over and that way. You’re not saying yes, but you’re not saying
no. And you’re not just empowering them? You’re showing them or telling them exactly
how to accomplish what’s important to them, which is going to put them at ease and be
happier. How much does that make sense? Oh, I love this stuff. All right. I know [] a good analogy. That’s Yeah, if you look through a straw,
you just see that little pot over there in the corner. That’s all right. I use that with them wanting me to pay attention
with them. Yes, Gabriella, thank you so much for coming,
by the way. Nice to see you. Hi, Tracy. Welcome. All right, we’re on point number three and
Tracy and Susanna. We haven’t gotten to the absolute best of
the best statement yet. Because there’s some foundation that we’re
building here. Before we tell you how to calm your child
during a meltdowns, they haven’t missed anything. And if you’re here, don’t go anywhere. Cancel your plans. It’s really important. Hi, Tracy from Australia. Welcome. All right. So Oh, okay. Yeah, right, share this story, because it’s
the whole thing. I’ll bring the point together. So sometimes you bring a little bit enlightenment
here or bring awareness is that the child’s brain is seeing things completely different. We’re getting onto this track. Now, what are the students that was in the
program. And once again, so picture yourself with a
martial artist discipline program, that’s a licensed daycare center and nonprofit. So it’s taking in all the at risk kids. And one of the times we were on a field trip,
we’re going from our school, we’re heading down towards the library. Now today’s library trip was to be able to
find a book. And whatever the topic was, find something
in there because we were going to share what we found. Real simple, real fun, light-hearted. And as we started to get on that direction,
there was you could hear a power struggle, a meltdown, right? You can go by many different names, but it’s
just they were in a crime mode. And this child started to say names, talk
loud, little push comes to shove, right? And you can see that he was getting out of
control. And everybody was in reactive mode. But when you look and you see, okay, there’s
something behind this, what is causing this? And you found it to were, when we got there? What was it about the library that was that
opposition for little branded. And so when we got there, I’m thinking, gosh,
you know, this is really a little over the top of what’s happening and so long story
short, when we started to investigate, I’m thinking to myself, have you ever gone to
one of those movies, it’s like a horror show. And you’re scared like a haunted house these
and go in? Well, that’s what Brandon saw the library
as now. He’s in the fifth grade at this time. So I’m thinking to myself, I’m wondering if
he has an issue with reading, just what if. And so sure enough, we had him tested, he’s
in the fifth grade. Now remind you, people were sharing this kid,
he’s a little, he’s a handful, you’re gonna have your hand, you got your work cut out
for yourself with him? Well, when we had him tested, guess what grade
reading level Brandon had, it’s obviously going to be less than fifth grade. And if your mind went all the way back to
first grade reading level, so here is Brandon having a label of acting out ODD these other
types of things, unwanted behavior. And it was for so many years when it came
to reading, he acted out and everybody backed off. And he learned to adapt that way. So when we got him into a reading program
to catch up on that, we finally found the rooted cause of the fear that was causing
this so called bad behavior because once we found the missing life skill, and started
to work on it, everything saying went right away, away. And it took zero effort to stop that, when
you actually gave the guiding to the front side. And that was Brandon, what a great success
story he had because we found out what was his missing link. Yeah, reminds me of why Zachary would throw
his desk across the whole classroom to his call, because he didn’t know how to sharpen
his pencil because his first teacher didn’t teach him to sharpen his pencil. She just did it for him. And so when his substitute teacher said no
and his brain went into that was like, it was like you’re taking this little spirit
and putting it in inside a box and putting this tape around it. And they have no choice but to like, act out
or freak out because they don’t have the adult words to say, I don’t know how to do that,
can you please show me how to sharpen a pencil, they get embarrassed. So I’m going to share a story in a minute
that’s going to sum that all up to so this was step to helping your child step into their
power that’s Tom talking about recognizing when the child actually needs help, they either
need to learn a life skill or they require some authentic motivation which is what we’re
talking about. And Carrie, I want to answer your question,
because a minute ago, when I was sharing, you know, I’d love for you to have a cookie. As soon as dinner is over, you can make that
happen for yourself. And that is just like, the tip of the iceberg,
you can take it really down the webinar if you like because Tom would say would you like
to have one cookie, or two cookies? You know, it’s like I have a have a cookie,
one cookie or two cookies? And what are they going to say nine times
out of 10, 99 times out of 100 actual 9.9 times out of 10, the child is going to say
I want two cookies. Oh, that’s awesome. I would love for you to have two cookies. So let me show you what you can do to have
two cookies. Let me show you what you can do to have one
cookie. And let me show you what you can do to have
half a cookie. And then you know, half a cookie might be
like a whine or complain or maybe they eat a portion of their dinner. You see what I’m saying? The plan is going to be new unique to you. What we’re saying is that when your child
asks for something, that’s called a goal and if we’re going to say no or even yes, what
we’re doing is we’re like smothering their desire with a blanket and we’re stealing their
motivation, kind of because they don’t know what to do to get what they want. It’s like that customer service, I just spent
$500 you’re telling me you can’t help me. Don’t tell me that you’re not going to have
a temper tantrum like because I would have a temper tantrum and I will I’ll admit, actually,
my mom never took time to teach me self-control as a child. So it�s something that I’m still working
on. Yeah, tell me will agree what you want to
say something? Let’s just a little plus one to that because
age is irrelevant when it comes to self-control controlling one self. And that’s really one of the cornerstones
or a principle. And so we have a like a definition or an affirmation
or a way to program, right? If your brain is a computer, which it is,
it needs some software-to update. So you run this particular program with the
kids. Self-control, I am in control of my body,
my actions. It’s one of the biggest shifts because when
we say yes to no to them, we’re literally robbing them of self-control trainee ever
missing life skill. I am in control of my body, my actions. And that was very key with the Brandon story. Yes, and here let me prove it to you right
now. And then Charlie, I’ll get you to your question. And visit I want some interaction. So run back from the kitchen or the bathroom
or wherever you’re at and get to your keyboard because this is really important, you need
to get this. Does your child act differently in different
environments? So if your child is, you know at a friend’s
house having a sleepover, do you often hear Wow, he’s so polite. What a good little boy and you’re like, are
you talking about? Right? Okay, so I’m waiting for answers. Does your child act differently in different
situations? Okay, does your child when you catch them
to the second question now? Yes, yes, yes. Okay. Second question. Now, does your child’s demeanor change when
you catch them doing something off the mark? So Charlie’s asking about cookie and let’s
say that you have this plan for cookies and you walk in and your eight year olds like
up on the counter getting a cookie? Do they change their demeanor? Like, like, I wasn’t doing anything? No, I just check in. All right, new comments, I need to see Yes. Okay. That’s self-control, that is self-control. So our belief when we especially when we have
kids who are being labeled with ADHD and ODD is that they cannot help themselves. And what I want to say is, and Tom can allude
to this a little bit more but what I want to say is that we believe when our children
are born, there’s some part of us in our society today, I’m talking the masses of us because
I was in the same boat too but I think we somewhat believe that our children are born
and they’ll grow into manners, they grow into respect. They grow into work ethic, and I’m here to
say that’s not true, it’s a lie, it’s something that is going to take us off the edge of a
cliff, it’s something that is hurting our children more than we can ever express in
words because it’s it’s holding them because if they don’t develop these neural pathways
of self-control, and focus and respect and manners and how to treat authority and how
to treat others with kindness, if they don’t develop those neural pathways now, like it
took me 10 years to go through personal development to be come anything close to what I am today,
are you with me? 10 years to get over the disempowerment from
my parents to no fault of their own, I’m not here to blame them. I’m just saying that if we don’t believe that
they can control themselves, then we’re going to, you know, be in a pot of boiling water
and it’s heating up and it’s going to boil someday. Now, maybe you’ve seen this but Dr. Phil had
a show one time, several years back. And there was this little guy it was it was
all about this 12 year old, slapping his mom across the face on the Dr. Phil show. I don’t know if you’ve seen that or not but
the one line in there in particular, that got me was this little 12 year olds trying
to send a message to mom like, it’s my body. It’s my results, it’s my life. And you’re controlling me that’s like, I’m
in control of my body, and I’m in control of my life. And she goes, No, I’m in control of you, like
I control you. How many people just in me describing this
story can see that number one, your child can practice self-control because they do
it on the negative spectrum, that number two, that we cannot ever control a child. You can’t control anybody. I can’t control Tom, he definitely cannot
control me. I could never control any of my kids. We want to, we are wired to think that we
can, we have been wired, we’ve been trained for 85 years, to think that to be a good parent
is to be and do and have everything for them and to give them we have all been trained
with the same techniques. So why are these behaviors and depression
and teenage suicide, skyrocketing through the roof, more and more every year? There has to be something to this. I’m telling you what, we have clients here
with us today. And we get a 100% success rate with every
single client that works with us long term because we follow principles. And you know, we might all be different obviously,
we have different personalities. But we all have desires and goals. And we’ll all smile back to a smile. Right? And we’ll all have temper tantrums to a customer
service department that says no. And so it might take some training. But I’m here to say we’re here to say your
child as pure potential to become like, he can go from the most oppositional defiant
child to the most respectful, happy child out there. And if you’re one of our clients, and you’re
already seeing it, give me some heart so that the new people can go Oh, yeah, that’s cool. Hoping that I get smart selfies is right here. My five year old daughter constantly says
she can’t control her emotions. Oh my gosh. Yay. Wait, I’m getting hearts. I like stars. Okay, so I’m gonna let Tom deal with that
in just a moment because I also have a question to answer for Charlie, but we might come back
to it. I wrote it down. So this is all about helping your child act
with self-control. Okay, you got 60 seconds. All right. 60. Okay, so this looks like Carrie. Okay, so, as I’m reading here exactly verbatim
what you’re saying, Okay. Is my five year old constantly says, yes,
you can’t control her emotions. Now, this is what’s amazing, when you hear
your child say that, right? The child has not the intellect yet to explain
it in a way like this. Hey, Mom, Dad, you’re the big one, you’re
the leader, I came to you with this beautiful spirit is ready to just take on the world,
show me how it works. Believe in me, let me give it a go and believe
that I can actually learn. And so what she’s really, really saying to
you is when you can begin to see this from the other side. Mom, would you please teach me how to manage
or guide my emotions? Because they’re come in, and they’re going
where they’re going. And I don’t know how to steer the bicycle
yet? And yes, that’s what she’s saying and when
you begin to see it, you shift from that punishment side, you shifting over to the guiding of
the behavior and you’re getting right back into the sweet spot, which is nature’s law. Tom, what is the crane champion�s life definition
of self-control? I love that this one. Yes, pen and paper. Those that are curious will listen to it and
it will be gone in 24 hours to 48, 97% guaranteed. But if you write it down famous, the faintest
of ink is stronger than the best memory. Self-control, I am in control of my body and
my actions. It’s literally renting your body to where
you’re taking ownership of it. I am in control of this. Mind, body and spirit. I’m in control of my body, my actions that
the first program to upload for our little children because now they have a say, and
all they need to do is learn and they’re looking for you for that authentic missing ingredient
called leadership in the family. Yeah, Dr. John Locke back in the 17th century. I know. Like why don’t we know this? Back in the 17th century, he’s like, he said
that kids are better off guided than punished because when a baby is born, they’re born
with no neural pathways. They don’t know what matters are, how to drive
a car, how to tie their shoes, or how to focus? Or how to manage their emotions, or how to
get a cookie or Xbox or a video game like they don’t know how to do this. How do we get video games, you guys, we gotta
go get a job. We got to work hard job for a couple of weeks
to pay the price maybe even a whole month because they’re not cheap, these Xboxes. And then and then they got to go to the store,
pick it out, they got to a game that $50 a game. And if we’re just supplying all this for them,
how are they ever going to know where anything comes from? Like honestly, our kids are being raised in
some sort of fantasy land world that doesn’t exist Because Where can you cry, kick and
scream and whine as an adult and people are going to actually go, can help this, like,
the world doesn’t work this way. I mean and I really authentically believe
that the oppositional behavior is coming from our kids such a massive scale because they’re
trying to share a message and the messages, I don’t need you to give me stuff, I need
you to show me how life works. I need you to show me how to master my emotions,
I need you to help me develop the neural pathway for focus, I need you to help me develop the
neural pathway for everything that you want me to be and do and have and everything that
I want to be doing have because sometimes our kids are not going to be doing have what
we want them to be. Guys, I could talk all day. Okay, I didn’t know that. Oh, Charlie, before I move on and forget,
I wanted to mention, what if they already ate three cookies and my question for you,
again, is, who is the leader of your home? You or your children? Your children have the right to climb into
the cupboards and eat as many cookies as they like, did they buy the cookies? Did they go to the store? Get a job go to store, buy them and bring
them home? Or do they belong to the child? Or is that a treat? Is that a privilege that one must work towards? And as we become the leaders in our home as
parents, and we become authentic leaders and teammates with our children are walking side
by side and we understand that our job is to guide them to their goals no matter what
it is without judgment, oh my gosh, you’re going to have such a loving, trusting, respectful
relationship with your kids like the dream life as a parent, right? But we got to take our eyes off control because
that’s a myth. It’s a false belief. Or we can never control our children. And the more we try to, the more oppositional
they’re going to become because they’re little spirits. And they have little minds. And they have they have all the same desires
that you have. And if no one’s ever going to show you how
to go live your life, it can be very terrifying for a child. Good question here. If you really begin to think of it right,
if you are supposed to control them, right, keep them safe. We all understand the reasons behind we have
this belief but ask an answer this question for yourself. Who’s going to control them when you’re not
around? Yeah, guys doing the laundry is a neural pathway
like if your children are being diagnosed with behavior disorders and you must have
heard the term neural pathway, your child is missing neural pathways of focus and self-control,
right? That’s ADHD. Odd is you’re going to customer service every
day and every day they’re telling you know, and every day you’re having temper tantrums
eventually that’s ODD, because it an angry child that goes longer than six months. So these angry outbursts are going to be diagnosed. But that is one side of the spectrum. That’s one side that’s literally the negative
side of the spectrum. But there’s a whole nother world to exist. And we’re talking about it right here, you’re
in the right place at the right time. So we were just talking to you about point
number four. This is how you can take all the stress out
of your parenting. This is it when we take the control away and
we make a proactive plan for everything for every cookie. Yes, that’s right. Oh my gosh, that sounds like work. Well, I’m sorry, you’re a parent, you have
a job to do its work. But it’s way less work than putting out the
fire, way less work because this is like you teach your child is skill one time. And they have the pathway valve they have
that neural pathway developed for the rest of their lives. As soon as your child knows that they can
set a goal for that cookie, Charlie, maybe they want three cookies, you know, maybe they
want a whole bag of cookies. Well, what is the plan for that? How can we show that child how to go get a
bag of cookies. The plan will all be unique to you. But this is how you prevent the fire versus
having to put them all out. And Charlie’s of fire safety guys. Yes, I did make that up since we talked earlier. All right. Yeah, because we somehow have this belief
that kids should just listen. I mean, I think that’s the second, why won’t
my kids just listen to me? They’re not supposed to do. Because if we teach our children that they
just listened to adults then the first adult that comes along the sidewalk that said, get
in my car, the jobs going to get in their car and they’re gone forever. They’re kidnapped, they have no inner roof,
no zest for life, no purpose, no direction. They don’t just have to listen to everything
we dictate to them, because they’re not like something we own. We don’t own our kids actually. We don’t own them. They’re here, they’re counting on you to fill
in all these missing pieces and to teach them a life skills that they need to be successful
now and forever. Okay, now and forever, not just get them to
listen to you today. We’re talking about life skills. They’ll give them a successful life. So all right, we’re at the fun part, 13 minutes
to seven. Oh, he says no, but they never hear no. How do we prepare them for a boss, who says
no? Trust me Okay, I’ve been adult now for almost
30 years and the universe tells me no, I’m just saying if I if I set a goal, and I’m
not willing to work towards it, then I don’t get it. And that’s how life works. And things aren’t going to come easy. But we’re literally promised that what the
mind of man or woman can conceive and believe it can achieve it’s called a goal, right? So you teach your child to persevere through
the obstacles and we teach our children how to deal with the negative aspects of society. You know what, there are going to be people
out there that tell you know because they don’t know how to tell you how to make a plan
to achieve the goal, right? So what like, my daughter wanted a dog and
we didn’t want to have a dog. So we created a master plan. She was 11. Okay, well, what kind of dog? What do you like about dogs? Where did you see a dog? Where did you get an idea to have a dog? So in this sense, we’re validating or empowering
her little Spirit because we just go. No way. We’re not getting a dog. We talked to her about it. We helped her set it as a goal, that’s great. So how much money is a dog? How much is dog food, like if you had dog
food, money saved and bet money saved for the whole first year and, and you had it all
planned out then you know, we could probably work something out. So she came back about a week later and she
had this master plan in place. And she’s like, I’m going to need about $4,000
to get my dog. And then she went to work for it. She actually earned about $100. And that week, people were donating and she
was cleaning up people’s yards and stuff. And after about a week she goes, you know,
maybe I changed my mind and get a cat. That was a lot easier to take it up. So let somebody else tell them no, I guess
my answer. I mean society is going to tell them no but
our job is to is to teach them how to maneuver through that. And it’s pretty powerful when you’re watching
your 29 year old daughter, like I put a post in here last week. And she wanted to take grandpa fishing in
a boat but they didn’t have any boats. So she persevered through all of the no no
until she got a yes. And she took them out on the boat. And that’s what we want them to develop the
habit of persistence, and they do have it in them now means next opportunity. I love all these winners. So we’re getting into calming your child through
a meltdown. But how many of you had some haha moment,
just during the first 45 minutes of this presentation today? Some aha moments and things that you’re going
to take ownership on that you’re going to move toward the future with like new lenses
start looking at our kids like they with an educational lens versus a behavioral lens,
because maybe it’s not behavior at all. Awesome. Great. Thomas, there was two statements for helping
a child calm down through a meltdown. Now this is if we don’t have a plan and the
child hasn’t developed the neural pathway yet have no means next opportunity, right. Brittany, because they have habits and if
your child’s already having meltdowns, then that’s a neural pathway. They’ve developed that pathway because that’s
the way they think they get what’s important to them, make sense? Yeah, it probably sure does. So, there were there were two statements that
get tossed around quite a lot. Well, actually, there’s one which is use your
words. Use your words. Calm down. Be quiet. Go over there. Okay. What is use your words calm down, be quiet,
Tom? They are dictation. Plain and simple. You’re telling them what to do and once again,
you it’s a rookie mistake, we don’t even know that we don’t even know. So you kind of can give yourself permission
to like, play the innocent card. I just did. No, I’m not. I’m new to this. But it’s a dictation, and you’re controlling
their spirit and as we all know, nobody can control the human spirit. So it’s suitable to even attempt it. And that’s really what it means is you’re
dictating versus guiding. And you didn’t even validate you’re telling
them against their will. And will is convinced against his will will
wake up in the next morning with the same opinion. Still, they’re going to see it as negative. Stop telling me what to do. Why do you ever look at your husband or your
partner, you’re like, gosh, I’m sleepy, or gosh, I had a bad day at work. And then and yet the first words out of their
mouths is take a nap that why don’t have time I don’t want to take a nap. I just wanted to express myself to say, I’m
feeling a little bit sleepy, right? Or gosh I had a bad day at work today. Well quit your job. You don’t need that anyway. I don’t want to quit my job, I just want to
tell you I had a bad day. It’s that same vibration, where the spirit
doesn’t know why there angry. But the spirit is just going dark telling
me what to do. I can do it myself. We’ve seen our kids go look what I did or
I can do it myself and we see these little two year olds, they want to pour their own
milk and we know they pour their own milk, it’s going to end up all over the floor but
can we give them like a little saucer, like a little measuring cup or something with a
little bit of milk and teach them to pour it on their cereal? We sure can. And then they can say look what I did. Like, I know you already feeling the energy
is already happier in this room, isn’t it like it’s this is amazing. It’s so awesome. So there is another statement. But it also needs a little polishing to is
we so this is a statement to help your child calm during a meltdown, if we forget to pre
frame everything. And we forget to validate their goals. And they actually end up having a meltdown
than this is the go two statement. I will speak to you when you are calm. So use your words is a dictation. I will speak to you when you are calm is a
plan. See how simple the plan is though. I will speak to you when you are calm. You may have your cookies, when you eat all
of your dinner. If you just want to have a cookie, all you
gotta do is eat half your dinner you choose. And trust me, they’ll eat all their dinner
because they want those cookies. That’s how this works. Alright, so I will speak to you when you are
calm need a little bit of polishing and some work. Because once again, it’s going to be about
the kids beanie adult brain. Let’s look at the word, calm. The adult brain knows it. It looks like this. I am ready and I am calm, that’s what the
adult brain knows. That’s what you know. And you learn it through experience. You weren’t born with it, right? It’s not like we make it to a can always said
no responsibility and I can now make my bed with no training. Right? We know that that doesn’t happen. So that kids brain, what does calm me? They have no clue. And it’s our belief that we told them 100
times, 100 times, 100 times oh my gosh, that they get it or they should know it. Right. So this is already your first rub is that
when you begin to see that, oh my gosh, I’m the one that lit the match on the fuse that
erupted the outbreak, right when you begin to see this and now when you look into it,
because the kids brain cannot fast forward into the adult brain world. But our research shows, right? This is like 29 years of research and the
research tells us absolute certainty like gravity in the sun’s coming up tomorrow, it’s
a principle that you can go back to when you were a kid. And instead of being that opposition, you’re
now a teammate, you’re going all the way back that’s what’s key. So now, this requires a very simplistic game
that been around since the beginning of time. And it is part of the missing link of what
is happening is called monkey see monkey do. Right? So how do you actually share what calm is,
you can say it to the cows come home, but it’s watching Hands on your laps, body is
back is straight, calm reading, and having a in side voice. They will see it before they hear it. That’s what monkey see monkey do is all about
follow the leader. So with this being said, they must be taught,
shown and being able to demonstrate that key not going a half because I won’t cut it. Right. It’s when they demonstrate it now I seen you
do it. You know how to do this. The innocent or the ignorant card of I don�tknow
is gone. Because they’ve done it. Just like pretend that you can’t walk once
you learn how to walk. So this is key monkey see monkey do. Here’s where you do the training. And this is the part that’s being missed. Oh, and I want to say, Elizabeth, I want you
to know, I do see your question. I see three like, check marks on your question. So restraining like the kids are freaking
out so badly that you’re having to restrain them to keep the house safe, what do you do
then? And so I want you to see this, almost through
different lenses. It’s like Einstein said, the mindset to create
the problem is the same one that can’t fix because of it could like why would you ever
have you know, created this environment in the first place? You never would this is not intentional. And I wanted to say to that it’s not your
fault. We have been wired to pair it this way. We have been wired to bring outside answers,
we’ve got to overcompensate to help our kids because they can’t control themselves. So when we switch it around and this training
is for you too because once you start training with your son or your probably as a son, because
usually sons that need to be restrained, but sometimes it has daughters too. But once your son begins to practice like
what Tom talking about right now, during his calm time then this statement, I will speak
to you when you are calm will actually work because it’s actually a plan. So what I would I’d love for you to do is
take some of the advice that you’re hearing tonight and go implement it, go offer your
child choices, validate everything that he says moving forward. And always think about how can I make a plan
to show him how to get with important him and chances are you won’t need to ever restrain
him again. Now I want to mention that we have clients
that study a one year program with us. And the first training that we do with them
is self-control training. We do self-control practice with our parents,
because if we can practice self-control, then how are they ever going to. And we have a client right now who was dealing
with exact same thing not that long ago. And she said when she’s practicing her own
self-control training, she gets upset about something, she goes and she says the egg clock
timer. So she’ll set the timer and she’ll breathe
until she’s calm. And then her son got upset one day, just last
week or something. And he went and got the egg timer and set
it and breathe just like mom until he was calm. She was like I just couldn’t even believe
or this kid came from. But these are opportunities. We’re planting seeds with you here tonight. Obviously, we can’t tell you everything that
we know in one hour, but we’re doing the best that we can to give you everything that we
got in this time that we have together. So begin somewhere, understand it’s going
to take some time, your family probably needs a little healing. And you probably all need to practice what
Tom’s about to go through. We got about 10 minutes and we’ll wrap up
today. But begin where you’re at and begin to see
the finish line a happy, healthy, harmonious, loving, trusting family, it does exist and
you’re very close to it now. Alright, so let’s back up just a little bit
here. Remember, we talked about the monkey see monkey
do, showing and demonstrating and them actually following what calm looks like. Because now for the very first time, they
can actually associate what calm means in the child’s life brain because when you just
tell them and tell them and tell them right this research has been done extensively. And the research will show and they had this
one campaign back in the school system. It was called dial 911. How many of us might remember that on some
level? All the kids were given stickers, when in
trouble call 911 and it was a huge campaign. We’re talking millions of dollars and the
research showed that it was an absolute failure because guess how many kids when they did
the follow up, and they followed up with how many kids were in that situation should have
called 911. But didn’t. This is key. They didn’t. And it’s because of this. There’s no neurological pathway that was demonstrated
in that campaign. It was completely missed. It was all told, ha ha. Got it. Yeah, 911 I can even say it. But unless it’s done one time with action
to actually develop it neurologically. So here was the missing component. If they would have done this one little step,
it would have been a huge success. You dial 911 pick up the phone, ding, ding,
ding, my name is I live at I need help with blank. Your turn? What was the number? Even though they’re looking at 900? What’s the number to 911? Right? It’s like when they dial it. And they physically say it that was key now. That’s what makes the difference. This is where we’re now shifting back to the
calm. So when can we start to train this self-control? Well, there’s three magical windows that are
brilliant and it’s called breakfast, lunch and dinner. You have a grandma? Or do you have a Mom? Or do you have somebody in your life that
you’re excited about eating and they give you one instruction love for you to eat? Go wash your hands, you can eat when your
hands are clean, you got that as a cause before the affect what needs to happen. So here we are, when they’re ready to get
ready to eat, they’re sitting down at the table. And those egg timers are those are the best
ones. You said it for a minute, two minutes, three
minutes, five, somewhere in there, you’ll know the sweet spot, set it and do that calm. And right there maybe they’re like this. The idea is you’re playing statue, you’re
going to be Show me your best rock, you know, and then right there and you’re breathing. Where is your nose out through your mouth
and the voice comes out calm and you’re sitting there waiting. And as soon as they do it. Now this is what’s key, how many of us would
default and say, Okay, this is what you gotta do. You gotta sit still. And then you can eat dictation, dictation,
dictation, you’re gonna miss it and and restart, get back up. However, you don’t tell them to do anything. You do it. Give me a thumbs up if this is starting to
make sense of like, Okay, I’m ready to eat. They need some leadership, who are they going
to follow the leader? Bonnie asked these questions great, whose
order? You or them? You are who chose to have kids? You did? Who’s the actual leader looking for leadership? You are? Who is the cause? Who’s the effect being me? Me get it. Okay, awesome. So you sit there and you put that value set
it down? And you’re like this, huh? Oh, kids can run around there throwing things
spitting in your face is whatever is called what it is but you’re right there and yours
then. And as soon as that one minute goes thing,
you’re like, whoo, I’m ready to go get some food. I need you to stand up, grab the plate. And they’re going to go i want i want i would
love for you to have some of that. It’s called a goal. What did I do? That’s not fair. Well, you bet it is because what did I do
first? And then they’re like, duh, click, they started
to do it because they’ve already been trained once, that’s what’s key is the action that
goes through. So now let’s come back we get three times
you do that? Calm training, self-control training. Sit still. Right, there you go. Now when is there? So now? You know, and I want to go back to I think
it was Elizabeth right? Was Elizabeth. Now Elizabeth, what I want you to do is I
want you to see yourself as on the reactive side, right? We’re all active parents, right? Because we’re here we have a polls. We love them. We’re just going, going, going. So there’s proactive and reactive, right? There’s active pro and re. you are in reactive
This is what is called a reactive question. It would be like me and you as a parachute
instructor ran the plane a jump out, you’re out there and I go, excuse me. I forgot my parachute. What do I do? Right? I mean, that’s really the question you’re
asking when you ask it this way, when you see it, you’ll be like, okay, you take it
personal, you missed the point. If you see it for what it is you’re in. Well, I don’t enjoy the view. Count to 10. Aim for water. I mean, there really is no answers. And it will be as successful of spending your
energy there chasing the tail like the dog because when you bite it, and you catch it,
what do you really when it hurts you don’t. That’s why you’re not really going to see
a lot of energy really acknowledge it, you ask the question, great. Let’s shift to this site. Fair enough because when they do have this
meltdown, and that’s why you’re here because you didn’t know you didn’t know you were the
cause. They have a cry, it’s just a few five year
old cry, a 10 year old cries a baby with muscles. It’s a baby that can actually throw things
it is somebody who can actually use words and go You are a blank, mental blackmail,
call it what it is, of course, it’s a disorder. It just needs to be put in no alignment, a
missing life skill that’s what solves every single disorder. Our research shows that and the research proves
it. Not an opinion is gravity doesn’t even require
us to believe it for it to work. So now when you’re in that meltdown, and you’re
in that place, haha, now you got three things in place. The child knows what calm is, check. You know how to guide them with a plan love
for you to be able to do blank. I will talk to you or we will be able to continue
when you’re calm. Now the child goes Oh, yeah, remember 911
stuff. Ding, ding, ding, my name is I live at. Mom, I’m ready and I’m calm. Bingo, who’s in controller by interactions? That child is, you’re never going to restrain
them and control them. Yeah, keep seeing them vegetables. And when they’re all bigger and stronger in
you, good luck. You see what we’re getting at. So that’s exciting. So now that when they are calm, they can have
that trigger. You allow them to cry it out. And then they start to go, I’m in chaos. I’m a pile of numbers just all over Oh, 123
there in order now. Then you’ve come completely out of it. And now the child was just looking for that
real authentic question, hey, this is important to me. I knew how to do it, I would need you. Would you show me Believe in me that I can
actually learn and give me a chance to fail, first attempt in learning. And that’s the process because nobody does
anything right. Walking, riding a bike driving a car, your
first kiss. It is part of the process. It’s the belief that you have to do it right
the first time. That’s not serving us. Where do we learn it? Let it go. And that’s what’s key. And yes, every single meltdown that’s ever
occurred during this whole project, every single one of them has been able to be put
out because if you can create it, you can do the opposite. And yes, it really is that simple once you
see it, and practice it and have the neurological pathway yourself because between me and you,
and this fence post right over here, we have missing life skills too. And when we put those into place, you asked
some of the moms that have been here and better yet, asked mom, Bonnie, because if it wasn’t
for her, I guarantee you, none of you would have this information. This lady right here took it upon herself
to walk away from everything in her life and had a dream that if every parent could just
know about this option whether you do it or not that’s up to you but you’ve got to know
it. Now you can make a change and that is why
we’re going to be doing what we’re doing. Thank you, Bonnie. Because if it wasn’t for Bonnie, we talked
about this a lot. This would have been taken to the grave. And that is no lie. Thank you so much. Wow, okay, there’s a lot a lot, a lot like
your cup, are probably overflowing actually have this picture of a horse. And it’s got like a hose spraying and his
face is probably where you feel right now. But I just wanted to close off by saying validate,
validate, validate, validate, if your child is validating you, you won’t have to worry
about them hitting and kicking and screaming during meltdowns. But the biggest thing is, is we as their parents
must begin to believe in our children, more than the inefficiencies or more than the disorders
like we need to believe in our children more than the disorders. Because when we first started, this was Zach,
he literally would say, and he was six and a half almost seven, you can expect the same
from me because my brain is broken. And I don’t want my kids to believe that their
brain is broken, their brain wasn’t broken. He was smart. He was charming, and all these things. But when things didn’t go his way, he’d have
a meltdown. And I know what it’s like to have 2, 3, 4
hour screaming fit meltdowns, I know what it’s like to have holes in my wall. That’s what I created by overcompensating
by dictating and by trying to control them. So, you know, like I said, like Tom said,
you know, some of these questions that were asked, you know, what do I do, and my kids
like, kicking, and now they’re hitting, and so I get that, but begin with validation,
take tonight’s presentation, and begin to validate, I’m on your side, I want that for
you to and to understand that they have no idea how the world works. Like you said, the they don’t know what be
calm is, use your matters, open the door for the older person, they have no idea what you’re
even saying. It’s like that Charlie Brown teacher, wall,
wall, wall, wall, wall wall wall , your kids just going, I just wanted a cookie, I don’t
even get what you’re doing. So it says awareness first, and then we can
master the principles later creating a Champions life has 12 principles to master. And I think some of you are starting to put
one or two of the links together, and you’re already seeing some results. And I think that’s fabulous, like so fantastic. But I want you to know, there’s 12 more levels
deep that we get to go down health and power your family because the to go from chaos and
frustration and stress and anger and to go from these hour long temper tantrums and screaming
fit to happiness army. There’s something in the middle and it’s called
the law of gender. And it’s like being pregnant, right? You’re like six months pregnant on so hot,
I get the baby out now. And but the universe says it’s nine months
lady, whether you like it or not, the gestation for a baby is nine months, the gestation for
a carrot is seven weeks. And I don’t know how long that this gestation
will be for you. I know that we have clients that get results
like sometimes first day, first week, first few months, but not like their dream life. That takes time. But that being said, it’s not about the destination,
you’re never going to have a final destination with your child. Sorry, doesn’t happen at 18. It does not I’m sure we have some people here
in the group that are raising their grandkids as we speak, right? It never ends, your children will come back
at 18, 25, 30, 35 Can I borrow $10,000 to buy a car, I mean, it’s just going to get
bigger and bigger. And so when we can learn to master this, now,
I would love for you to have $10,000 for your car. And then we can put a plan together so that
they can actually earn the $10,000 themselves then life changes. They say on average at $250,000 to raise a
child in today’s day and age from zero to 18. But if you have a child with a disorder, it’s
an extra 1500 dollars a year, statistically speaking with doctors appointments, therapy,
medication and days Miss from work and all that. But there’s there’s a positive side. So take one or two of the points that you
learn here tonight, begin to apply it in your home with your kids. Give us your stories, your questions and everything
else. Next week, we are going to go through this
list of self-control training ideas that we didn’t get to tonight because we’re out of
time. But I’m also from those of you that are like
oh my gosh, this makes so much sense but feel like that horse that the hose and the water
in the face. You know, it makes sense. But you have no idea we kind of sounded like
[] do you because it’s the first time you’ve heard it. I’m going to put a link to schedule a strategy
session in the comments here. I’m going to try to pin it at the top. But I may also just edit the top and put like
schedule a strategy session with me. Because if we talked for 10,15 minutes, you
have a really good idea of whether you wanted to work with us long term or not. And we’re fine either way. But I just know the answers are here. We want to show you you’ve seen the negative
side of the spectrum. We want to show you the positive side of the
spectrum. If you’ve gotten some value out of tonight’s
presentation. I love to just see a whole bunch of heart
or likes hearts are my favorite. As we feel better feel like I have more time. Yes, you have lots of time but never ever
going to end. I’m still my dad�s baby. And I’m almost 47 this year and they still
tell me what. Okay, everybody, thank you so much. We’re going to do this again next Thursday,
every Thursday night at 6pm is our chosen time to come in here and give you guys as
much value in an hour as we possibly can. And if you have a bunch of questions or you’d
like to talk to us at the end of next week’s webinar, we will stay for that too. So thank you so much. We just want to send love and light and Blessings
to you and your family. And we’ll see you next time.

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