Respect in the Workplace (How to Deal with Disrespectful Employees)


Hey Ambitious Professionals! It’s Linda
Raynier of lindaraynier.com guiding you to a career and life you’ll truly enjoy.
And today is another Corner Office Insights video where I’m going to share
with you leadership advice if you happen to be a
professional who manages a team at work whether you’re at the Manager, Senior
Manager, Director or C-Suite level position and today I’m gonna share with you five
very raw and honest reasons why it is that your employees may not be
respecting you at work and what you can do to turn that around reason number one
you’ve set unrealistic expectations for yourself when you have high expectations
you feel as though you need to be perfect that you need to know everything
and be able to do everything you feel that as the boss you should have all the
answers in reality you know that you’re not going to have all the answers
but thinking that you need to creates insecurities within you and this will
lead to anxiety and this anxious energy that you carry isn’t only hurting you
but it’s hurting your employees because this is actually what happens when you
have high expectations on yourself this can create direct conflicts with
your own employees for example during the times that an employee may come to
you and ask you a question it may lead you down one of two paths one could be
that you give them incorrect advice because you don’t necessarily have the
answer but you want to meet your own expectation of always having some sort
of answer or you’ll just get annoyed and frustrated and angry at your employee
for asking you a question that you don’t have an answer to and that in itself
will also create conflicts with your employees in either one of these
scenarios it will lead you down the path of having an employee who disrespects
you because a you either don’t have the right information or be you can’t answer
their questions because you’re angry or frustrated at the fact that they’re
asking you questions so what’s the solution be transparent with your
employees on what you do and don’t know if you aren’t sure of something you can
always say let me look into it and I’ll get back to you or get your employee to
look into it themselves so that they can feel empowered by the fact that they’re
doing their own research and then making a recommendation to you being
transparent will always allow for flow of communication between you and your
employees on to reason number two while your employees don’t respect you you
feel that power and authority comes mainly from your title verse
is anything else what I’m saying here is that because you hold the title of
manager or director or VP that you feel that inside that should automatically
grant you power authority and respect from your employees well here’s a deep
truth that I really want you to know and that is that humans will really only
listen and trust those individuals who they have a strong connection to they
respect those individuals not because of the titles that they hold but more so
because of the beliefs and values that that person possesses so what you need
to start doing is to start to pay attention to what values and beliefs
that you are embodying as their manager if you believe that you and your staff
are all in it together and you’re all moving towards a single purpose and you
can understand your people in a genuine and connected way your employees are
going to be far more likely to respect you and to follow your lead reason
number three why your employees don’t respect you your employees don’t feel
empowered because you’ve relied on fear tactics to motivate them not everyone
does it I must say and you may not have done this but I have seen it before
where fear has been used as a way to manage and encourage people rather than
through positive encouragement and empowerment and if this is you I’m not
here to judge you but I can tell you that if you’re a fear driven manager
it’s likely because you’re afraid that if you empower your employees too much
that either they’ll outshine you or you’ll just lose them altogether but if
anything the complete opposite actually happens if you were truly empowering and
inspiring to your employees they would be far less likely to leave you for
another company or another manager rather than if you used fear tactics to
threaten them with the idea that they might lose their job or they might not
get a bonus and such and such so instead of using fear how do you inspire and
empower other people simple one way is to fight
what your employees strengths are and to praise them for that so essentially what
you’re doing is you’re patting your employees on the back but you’re also
giving them a bit of a personal and professional challenge that you want
them to meet as well it’s kind of like you’re one of those wise Sifu masters in
those kung fu movies where you tell your disciple what they’re good at and you
acknowledge them for that but then you actually tell them that if they were to
be able to master this other thing that that would be the real exciting thing to
see reason number four why your employees don’t respect you you don’t
follow up or follow through on your promises has it happened to you where in
a one-on-one meeting with your employee they make a certain request and on the
spot you say yes absolutely that sounds like a good idea and only to take that
back a few days later and to say actually I changed my mind nothing
causes you to lose the trust of your employees faster than not following
through on your word if this is something that you’ve done multiple
times to the same employees they will find it hard to believe in the words
that you say and to believe in the promises that you make moving forward so
what’s the solution well moving forward if you’re ever in a situation where you
are in a meeting with your employee and they are proposing asking or requesting
some sort of idea from you then instead of saying yes on the spot without having
thought it through and then having to take it back later you should just say
that you’ll think about it and then from there you’ll give them a clear and
honest answer that you will actually follow through on and when you say that
you’re gonna give them an answer actually give them an answer don’t stay
quiet hoping that they forgot about it that is the worst not following through
not giving an answer is worse than just saying no so remember to always follow
through with your answers and to remind yourself so you don’t forget and finally
reason number five why your employees don’t respect you you worry a lot that
your employees are making or will make mistakes are you worried that your
employees just simply don’t know how to do their jobs
this worry likely playing into your actions and
management style it can lead to something deadly called micromanaging
has anyone ever mentioned that you’ve been called a micromanager before now I
get it I completely understand that when you feel that you don’t have control
over something or someone but your natural reaction is to try to gain
control over it but that need of yours to have to control every aspect is
likely to deflate your employees motivation levels and is going to
overwhelm them rather than motivate and support them so what’s the answer the
biggest thing here in order to solve this issue is something called trust now
I’m not saying to blindly trust your employees what I am saying is that after
you put in the time and effort to train your employees to give them short
assignments to check on their work and make sure that they’re on the right
track you’ve answered their questions and you feel good that they are able to
do the work that you’ve assigned them then you can trust them to do the work
that you’re now assigning them as well as opposed to constantly checking up on
them and asking them little things that is likely to overwhelm them
but you trusting them means that they also need to trust you in that you’ll be
available for them when they do have questions when they are uncertain about
certain things you need to tell them and let them know that you’re there to guide
and support them so that they need to know that you’re available I’ve seen it
happen a lot where employees are actually afraid to ask their managers
questions because their managers reactions tend to be ones of frustration
and annoyance because they assume that their employees should know the answers
for everything as well and that can create mistakes and errors done by the
employees because they didn’t ask the questions to their managers and that’s
that just creates a vicious cycle of the employees creating mistakes and errors
and the manager getting upset with the employee and not trusting that employee
and therefore micromanaging that employee so you need to be the one to be
able to say that you are available for any questions any guidance any
strategies that they need help with and here is a quote that I think is
extremely fitting for this topic leaders become great not because of their power
but because of their ability to empower others by John Maxwell so there you have
it my ambitious leaders five real and raw honest reasons why your employees
aren’t respecting you and what you can do about it now if you’re someone who’s
been searching for a new position you want to make a career change and you’ve
been looking for a while but it hasn’t been working
you haven’t been successful in interviews or even in your job
applications and you realize that you need one-on-one help then feel free to
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thank you so much for watching and I will see you in the next video.

42 thoughts on “Respect in the Workplace (How to Deal with Disrespectful Employees)

  1. Are your employees not respecting you? Do any of the reasons in the video resonate with you? Let me know your thoughts in the comments below!

  2. nice voice, nice training , nice teaching and impressive my love dear Madam …. God bless you

  3. i was dealing with a disrespectful employees who keep reading me. i went to HR & they did absolutely nothing. She just said they need to have an actual investigation.

  4. You are very wonderful and such a mentor. Please keep it up. You really encourage me a lot.

  5. All do respect Lynda. I need your wisdom.I'm an employer at a pastry, and a women treats me horrible,the fact that I'm doing things, not right,and that I didn't knew yet,to make a bread in it's shape.What I'm suppose to do when people treat me bad?

  6. Hi Linda I love your videos i learn a lot from them
    Thanks a bunch my beautiful teacher 😉

  7. I really hate the aspect of micromanaging, it show your boss doesn't trust you…. I hate when ,they know you how good you are and they keep walking up on you every now and then.. also the lying aspect is killing me..

  8. What if it’s the other way around? Which it has been in most jobs I’ve had… I’m currently a FH Receptionist for a huge office building, which has different companies on every floor, I deal daily with a myriad of CEO’s, Finance Execs, Medical Researchers, and a whole heap of Office Managers, as well as all their employees, all whilst doing my actual duties, but they more often than not, show no respect to the Receptionist (even tho we are the first impression of their business). I think this video should have been the other way around… How do Employees gain respect from people with ‘titles’? I may only be a Receptionist but I am intelligent, intuitive, professional and hope to one day manage one of those offices on the other floors 😆

  9. Fear tactics (read bullying) is counter productive. It just leads to people either quitting or they'll find a way to retaliate. The best bosses I've had are the ones who show me respect and behave with class and dignity.

  10. There is great book on this topic called the 5 levels of leadership. I highly recommend it.

  11. Thank yooooooooooooou very much this 5 reasons are absolutely real and i will try to deal with it In my relationship with my workers

  12. The empower and self learning path have failed recently it’s the most difficult thing to do in my group!Instead of the proactively mind set they getting in attacking mode!! Trust no way! it’s better asking the most insignificant probability of mistaken they would know where to point out 🤨 did I explain myself??

  13. Ok Great Advise, empower, delegate not micro manage ! Easy on write ups ! Some managers used to give too many and loose the morale of the employees!! Not be defensive and be insecure of outstanding employees.

  14. My boss makes 3 of those mistakes.

    The last quote is absolutely true. I tried to tell that to my managers. I even try to apply that myself to my colleagues, although I am not the manger. But it backfired. People have taken advantage of my willingness to share knowledge and information. They went around and showed off as if they were the smart ones and resourceful (typical middleman dealings).

  15. Ur coffee cup is EMPTY!!!!

  16. Respect can be always earned when a manager is approachable, supportive and simply behaves ethically, assertively and is able to handle emotions as well as acts as a role model! Linda thanks for your inspiring videos.

  17. Just today I had a subordinate team member attempt to dictate up what they were going to engage in regarding work assignments and twice they were explain that we had one single goal to complete, then we could move them into their desired assignment. They were so upset they left the worksite in a fit. Later another team member felt like they could tell me what my work assignments were going to be!!!! Are these people nuts?

  18. 3:06 This is actually the biggest reason for my disrespect issues. They get to know quite a bit about me and fill the rest in their mind that they know me, forgetting other facts about me. They forget major parts and only see me how they want to because of my age. They don't see my schedule or how many hours I'm working at the different stores. They assume I work 4 hours and go home because of my high energy that gets the job done so quickly (instead of efficiently and focused). In reality I am going to the next store to finish payroll, schedules, and more. Then, the next.

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